Change – Part 3 Setting Goals

……………..to be made new in the attitude of your minds; Ephesians 4:23 NIV

Now that you have identified negative habits, surely you want to overcome and establish positive habits instead. You should know that your brain does not register negatives, so we must create positive goals for you to have any hope of succeeding!

Don’t believe me? Try this: Do not think of an elephant.

Other examples: Don’t smoke. Don’t run. How about replacing those negatives with the positive result we hope to create. I will drink water when I feel the urge to smoke. And to the running child: “Walk, please.”

Establishing a goal is your next action item.  Here are a few imperatives for your GOALS:

MODEL – Envision your desired results, next select a model (process) to guide you and give you the visual/audio/kinesthetic experience you require for your learning style. Examples – watch someone, listen, or take a lesson to accomplish your goal.

REASONABLE – “Do-able”. Take a reality check. Don’t set yourself up for failure. Example: improving golf game by 5 points over 2 months, NOT playing the Pro tour next year (for you that may be reasonable, but not for me!)

INCREMENTAL – Think of byte size progress rather than 0 to 100 in an instant. This way you can celebrate successes along the way, spurring you to continue toward the larger goal.

COMMITTED – Now, how committed are you REALLY?  What are you willing to give up to accomplish this goal: time, money, sweat equity? Time with others: will relationships falter if you put too much time into this? Will your loved ones suffer if you do NOT invest in the change? Is it worth it? Will others understand?

Be honest with yourself and enlist help of someone close to you to be your accountability and encouragement partner, whenever possible, to achieve this positive change.  When you feel alone, remember God never leaves nor forsakes you (Deuteronomy 31:8).

God will always provide a way out of temptation (1 Corinthians 10:13).  Temptation to quit will certainly come; be aware of it; anticipate for it [what it will look/smell/taste/sound/feel like?]; and have the “way out” planned.

Now get out and break that bad habit, replacing it with a positive new thought pattern.  As you repeat this new thinking over and over, it becomes a deeper and wider pathway on your brain.  This pathway becomes the path of least resistance, essentially overriding your ‘old’ habit.  The key is repeating it enough times to insure the new thought path is deeper than the old. 

Monday I will outline the learning process, TEFCAS, to help you structure, process, and evaluate the progress toward your new BIGGER and better habit!

Make a positive change today.

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1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. Jennifer VanWormer
    Apr 07, 2013 @ 02:49:22

    Dear Kim, These have been EXCELLENT reminders about change! With the help of the Holy Spirit, I want to make new “pathways” in my brain, instead of the old deep ruts! I *have* to go over your class informationagain! I have several half finished charts that I began creating after taking the class. :-/ The Lord has given you a wonderful gift of communication~THANK-YOU SO MUCH for continuing to write! (& keeping me on your list!) See you Tuesday, my friend!!! Love you!!!! ~Jen

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